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Born Innocent, Taught to Fail: Bad Parenting and Band-Aid Laws Shaping Our Kids

Born Innocent, Taught to Fail: Bad Parenting and Band-Aid Laws Shaping Our Kids

by | Dec 10, 2024 | FUPS, LifeCoach

Born Innocent, taught to Fail! Let’s Talk About Parenting and Accountability!

This is a massive topic, so I’ll keep it short and to the point for now. We’ll start with the basics and dive deeper into the details later.

Here’s the essence of it:

• Kids aren’t born overweight.

• Kids aren’t born addicted to drugs.

• Kids aren’t born criminals.

• Kids aren’t born polite—or rude.

These are learned behaviors.

“Monkey see, monkey do” sums it up. Kids learn from what they see around them. And no, it’s not always directly from parents—but parents play a big role.

Take, for example, the knee-jerk reaction of banning kids under 16 from social media. While the intent is to protect them, the reality is you can’t rely on the government or an app to raise your kids.

Here’s the hard truth: if you let an iPad or a phone babysit your child while you scroll through your own screen, you’re setting them up to fail. The internet isn’t going away. Social media, predators, and bullies aren’t going away. But what is disappearing? Your time with your kids.

If you’re not spending time teaching, guiding, and being present, how do you expect your kids to grow up? They start innocent, but it’s what they’re exposed to that shapes them—good or bad.

Parents, this is on us.

You can legislate, blame the internet, or point fingers at teachers, friends, or society, but at the end of the day, kids learn from us. If you don’t have the patience to parent, maybe reconsider having kids in the first place.

Yes, this is uncomfortable to hear. But ignoring it won’t make the problem go away. If we don’t start paying attention to what our kids are doing—online and offline—this issue will snowball into something much bigger, an unstoppable pandemic of failed generations.

It’s time to stop finger-pointing and take accountability. Parenting isn’t easy, but it’s necessary. And it starts with showing up for your kids.

Stay tuned for more on this, because this is a conversation we must keep having as this includes learned behaviours leading to domestic violence, gender disrespect etc from female males and the aggressive society in generally – which and here’s the kicker, ” They learn from the very tool you gave them to keep them quiet!”

FUPS – What is it?

FUPS – What is it?

by | Aug 30, 2024 | FUPS, WDIK

FUPS (Fucked Up Parent Syndrome): A term describing the detrimental impact of poor parenting on children, encompassing a wide range of behaviors that negatively influence a child’s development. This includes commonly recognized forms of bad parenting, such as neglect or abuse, as well as more complex issues like parental alienation. FUPS highlights the use of children as tools or pawns in parental conflicts, where one parent manipulates the child to harm the other, resulting in psychological harm to the child. The syndrome also covers the long-term effects of these behaviors, which can extend into the child’s adulthood. FUPS underscores the lasting consequences of dysfunctional family dynamics on a child’s emotional and mental well-being.

End Result of FUPS: Children who grow up under the influence of FUPS often carry significant emotional scars into adulthood. Without guidance from someone close, who helps them understand that the negative experiences were not their fault, these individuals may internalize blame, leading to self-esteem issues and ongoing emotional turmoil. Recognizing and accepting that their feelings and experiences were shaped by external factors, not by any fault of their own, is crucial. This realization is the key to healing, allowing them to let go of misplaced guilt and move forward, fostering personal growth and a healthier outlook on life.

Broadly summed up as Cause & Affect;

• Neglect or Abuse: Physical, emotional, or psychological harm inflicted by parents.

• Parental Alienation: One parent manipulating a child against the other parent.

• Using Children as Pawns: Parents leveraging their children in conflicts to hurt the other parent.

• Dysfunctional Family Dynamics: Persistent conflicts, instability, and unhealthy relationships within the family.

• Lack of Emotional Support: Failure to provide necessary affection, understanding, and guidance to the child.

Effects of FUPS:

• Emotional Scars: Long-lasting psychological damage, leading to issues such as anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem.

• Internalised Blame: Children may wrongly believe they are at fault for the negative experiences and emotions they face.

• Impaired Relationships: Difficulty in forming and maintaining healthy relationships in adulthood.

• Ongoing Emotional Turmoil: Persistent feelings of guilt, shame, or unworthiness.

• Delayed Healing: Without external support or intervention, individuals may struggle to overcome these challenges, hindering personal growth and emotional recovery.

Sometimes …

Sometimes …

by | Aug 12, 2024 | FUPS, WDIK

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WDIK

Sometimes, you just have to walk away from people who don’t value you. It’s not easy, but knowing your self-worth is crucial. If someone doesn’t show the same level of care or commitment, it’s time to step back for your own well-being. Staying in a toxic relationship only leads to more pain and drama.

The longer you stay, the bigger your problems get, like a snowball rolling out of control. To avoid this, sometimes you need to fold and walk away—whether it’s a family member, partner, colleague, or even a stranger. Remember Kenny Rogers’ song “The Gambler”: know when to hold ’em, fold ’em, and when to walk away.