Born Innocent, taught to Fail! Let’s Talk About Parenting and Accountability!

This is a massive topic, so I’ll keep it short and to the point for now. We’ll start with the basics and dive deeper into the details later.

Here’s the essence of it:

• Kids aren’t born overweight.

• Kids aren’t born addicted to drugs.

• Kids aren’t born criminals.

• Kids aren’t born polite—or rude.

These are learned behaviors.

“Monkey see, monkey do” sums it up. Kids learn from what they see around them. And no, it’s not always directly from parents—but parents play a big role.

Take, for example, the knee-jerk reaction of banning kids under 16 from social media. While the intent is to protect them, the reality is you can’t rely on the government or an app to raise your kids.

Here’s the hard truth: if you let an iPad or a phone babysit your child while you scroll through your own screen, you’re setting them up to fail. The internet isn’t going away. Social media, predators, and bullies aren’t going away. But what is disappearing? Your time with your kids.

If you’re not spending time teaching, guiding, and being present, how do you expect your kids to grow up? They start innocent, but it’s what they’re exposed to that shapes them—good or bad.

Parents, this is on us.

You can legislate, blame the internet, or point fingers at teachers, friends, or society, but at the end of the day, kids learn from us. If you don’t have the patience to parent, maybe reconsider having kids in the first place.

Yes, this is uncomfortable to hear. But ignoring it won’t make the problem go away. If we don’t start paying attention to what our kids are doing—online and offline—this issue will snowball into something much bigger, an unstoppable pandemic of failed generations.

It’s time to stop finger-pointing and take accountability. Parenting isn’t easy, but it’s necessary. And it starts with showing up for your kids.

Stay tuned for more on this, because this is a conversation we must keep having as this includes learned behaviours leading to domestic violence, gender disrespect etc from female males and the aggressive society in generally - which and here's the kicker, " They learn from the very tool you gave them to keep them quiet!"